Book Freak 154: The Laws of Human Nature
Counterintuitive truths about anger, trust, and desire
In The Laws of Human Nature, author Robert Greene explores 18 fundamental laws that govern human behavior and relationships. He examines topics like irrational thinking, narcissism, deception, short-sightedness, and aggression, among others. Greene draws on examples from history, philosophy, psychology, and literature to illustrate how these laws play out in real life. Its central message is that by deeply understanding human nature — its predictable patterns and contradictions — we can gain self-mastery, empathy, and influence over our circumstances.
On anger — Don't express it directly. Channel it into your work and productivity. Anger expressed directly often leads to irrational behavior and words you later regret.
On trust — Never completely trust people right away, no matter how nice or competent they seem. Look closely for subtle cracks and inconsistencies in their character before investing time and energy into the relationship.
On desire —Don't reveal too much about yourself too quickly when trying to attract someone. Maintain an air of mystery. The less people know, the more they will want to possess you.
On empathy — Don't just listen to people's words. Pay attention to nonverbal cues like tone of voice, breathing patterns, and body language to truly understand their inner state.
On criticism — Don't take criticism personally. Look at it from the outside, as valuable feedback that can help you improve. The more open you are to criticism, the more you will learn.
On social groups — Don't get too deeply enmeshed in group settings where irrational conformity and groupthink can take over. Maintain your independence.
On thinking — Continually examine your own assumptions and beliefs. Most of what you think of as truth has been handed to you by others. Question it.
On self-awareness — Your character was formed early on and compels you to repeat certain patterns. Knowing your own weaknesses gives you the power to stop the patterns.
The book is full of counterintuitive and thought-provoking ideas like these to help readers re-examine their perspectives on human nature.
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Very helpful, thanks Mark. Just bought the kindle.