Book Freak #75: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
This issue of Book Freak presents four pieces of advice from Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from the Dear Sugar podcast by Cheryl Strayed
Limit the amount of jackass in your life by saying “no"
“'No' is golden. 'No' is the kind of power the good witch wields. It's the way whole, healthy, emotionally evolved people manage to have relationships with jackasses while limiting the amount of jackass in their lives.”
Say thank you when you have the opportunity
“One Christmas at the very beginning of your twenties when your mother gives you a warm coat that she saved for months to buy, don’t look at her skeptically after she tells you she thought the coat was perfect for you. Don’t hold it up and say it’s longer than you like your coats to be and too puffy and possibly even too warm. Your mother will be dead by spring. That coat will be the last gift she gave you. You will regret the small thing you didn’t say for the rest of your life. Say thank you.”
Don’t try to convince anyone to love you
“You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love because you want him or her to give it. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don't waste your time on anything else.”
How to know when to leave
"Wanting to leave is enough."
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