Issue #83: How to Talk to Anyone
Four pieces of advice from How to Talk to Anyone, by Leil Lowndes
Use your smile strategically
“Don’t flash an immediate smile when you greet someone, as though anyone who walked into your line of sight would be the beneficiary. Instead, look at the other person’s face for a second. Pause. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes. It will engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second delay convinces people your flooding smile is genuine and only for them.”
Do you part to keep a conversation going
“Do humanity and yourself a favor. Never, ever, give just a one-sentence response to the question, "Where are you from?" Give the asker some fuel for his tank, some fodder for his trough.”
Be a good listener
“I always try to turn the spotlight on the other person." Truly confident people often do this. They know they grow more by listening than talking.”
Be a parrot
“Never be left speechless again. Like a parrot, simply repeat the last few words your conversation partner says. That puts the ball right back in his or her court, and then all you need to do is listen.”
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